I hope ya’ll are doing well and the build up to Christmas is an enjoyable process. The stress of the shopping crowds can get to all of us. This post is a terminology post with a lot of extra stuff thrown in. The next post should be part of a physical conditioning series. The video below has some information which can help with the stress, identity and group dynamics. It can also help with possible self-defense situations as well as everyday life. Understanding how we work and other people work makes life much easier. Please note, the picture is a link to Discovery’s Curiosity website. It’s a little philosophical but what the heck, we are all part time nerds.
Before we get too far into it, let me share some stories with you.
As all kids (and adults) experience, my son has learned that he has natural skills and others which demand more time and work. The physical and coordination related skills are very easy for him. Some school subjects are easy and some (one) require work. I noticed he was down and feeling badly about the difficult subject. It was affecting his whole posture and way of moving and walking. We talked about it and he remembered that he will feel tired and lethargic if he slumped. Simply standing tall affects his energy levels and how he feels about himself and life. As you can read, we had talked about it on other occasions. He changed his posture and movement patterns and 2 minutes later he was at school feeling on top of the world.
It’s all part of a large working machine called the human body and spirit.
The next story is about a student back when I trained and taught karate. He was really gung ho … headband with the rising sun and all! He was not dangerous at all. But even though he had only trained a month or two he felt dangerous. Well, on the way home he was walking through a train station in Copenhagen. A gang saw him and started talking about giving him a hard time. The boy reacted by doing a head snap and faced them ready for war. The switch from a “nerdish” looking boy to a war lord shocked them. They left him alone and left to find an easier victim. He went home to dream about flying back kicks.
If you have read some psychology books or many as I did a few years, you will know that identity is an issue of group dynamics as well as when nobody is around. Look at the school reunions and what happens. People who are easily pull/pushed back to the identity they had in school go back in time almost. The people who are aware of the push from the rest of the group (to be who the group thinks they are or should be) do not get pushed backwards in time, they continue to enjoy themself as the person the last 10 /20 years has created. In short they stay adults with new life experiences and knowledge. They evolved to the person(s) who they are today.
Do you want a gang to decide that you are the next victim or do you want to decide that you are not the next victim. How we carry ourselves changes our perspective on life.
Our ability to create who we are and how people react to us is governed in part by our ability to control our feelings and actions. Body language is one way ( a trigger ) to start working on the big picture in our heads. It can also be a key to discovering new things about ourselves. When we look at how we stand and move, The next step is to understand what triggers this reaction in our body. And yes I know it can be work, injuries or some other reason, we’ll just stick with the relationship between the mind and body right now.
By simply feeling safe and strong we avoid problems. The case in point is the karate student in the train station. Working security has let me see this truth unfold time and time again. If we are aware of the reactions in people when they see facades or expressions of who we are on some level, we can control people around us to some degree. If we look at the karate student, he changed from nerd to warrior in a split second. That transition shocked the gang enough to make them go another way. I’ve done the same thing when doing security. Going from a nice guy to a psycho ready for war has made people stop the escalation of a situation. It can also provoke an escalation as well. Knowing when to use it is the trick. If we look at self-defense, deescalating a situation is a useful tool to have as well. That’s a subject for another day.
Imagine you are walking down the street and a gang yells at you to ask you the time. What do you do? Go psycho and provoke a situation? I would not. I would turn towards them while walking in my original direction. Let them see I am not scared by telling them I had no watch in a deep but not false voice. Turning away without looking down or up shows strength. You don’t want to be submissive or stuck up. Staying aware of where they are with out looking scared would be the smart thing to do. How to handle the situation if it went farther … that’s for another day.
In our everyday life we choose to confront obstacles head on or we avoid them in one way or another. If we simply straighten up and stand tall while being grounded we can affect the way our mind and heart reacts to an obstacle. Just as when we feel on top of the world, we stand taller and radiate strength and confidence.
The psychology reading nerd in me thought that the second video was cool as well.
Stay Proactive in Life and Training