I have gone a little extra redneck lately. My son and I ordered some para cord to make a few things with. He is a boy scout and self-reliance is part of what he is learning. Knots and general abilities to use a hatchet / knife as well as other abilities is part of the process. We have been talking about a day trip in which we will build a little shelter as well as an a-frame to cook from. This is all part of my ongoing plan to make sure my boy can take care of himself when he is older … Pop can’t be there for ever you know.
All this got me to thinking about my general direction lately and to a degree about my whole life. My boy learned early on to help me with building projects. How self-reliant are you? What is self-reliance? The ability to rely on one self is the easy answer.
The next question is how reliant do we have to be? That is very different. That gets into the philosophical aspect of life. There are the redneck types who want to be able to fend for them self in almost any situations and there are the types that think the communal type societies are the only way to go. You see that a lot here in DK where I live. Don’t think both types don’t exist in all societies / groups / countries, they are everywhere.
I am also teaching my boy to use a two-handed wooden sword. He helped to shape it on a belt sander. The process itself helped to teach him that he has to work for what he wants from life. He is responsible for his happiness and his future … with a little help from dad of course ;) . He is learning to defend himself in hand to hand situations when we train with the waisters (wooden swords) He is developing body mechanics and balance as well as a mental strength. Teaching him more relevant self-dense will be much easier as time goes by. He is having fun as well as building up a feeling of self-reliance.
You should be able to see where I am going with all this. There are people who want to be able to to rely on the police and society for their safety and there are the totally self-reliant types. I like the idea of being somewhere in the middle. We need societies rules and norms to avoid anarchy and experience each other bests attributes. We have to be responsible for our own safety as well though! The police or the local security guard or just the bystander who has the balls to help can’t always be there. The last is really scary when you have been the only person to help when you are among hundreds of people. I can write about that another time. It’s a funny story in one way because the only two people who helped were an American and a Russian and we were in Denmark !
Any hoo, back to self-reliance. Just as we have insurance for the unlikely event that we die and our family needs to be taken care of, we need to have an insurance policy that is called self-defense training / combative training. This idea has been pushed home for me in many ways. One was when a women came to us after a course for women and told us how she felt as if she could take care of herself after the effects of a long abusive relationship. The course we gave was worth the energy we spent on it just because of that one women! We need to feel empowered in order to get all we can out of life. I hope my son feels empowered and will grow to feel even more so in the future. That is what we want for our family and our selves after all. There are many degrees of self-reliance and many situations
I hope you like the pictures and as always, I hope I have made you think.
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