Training for stressful real life situations. Latosa Concepts Terminology.
The mental aspect of self-defense has always been the pink elephant in the room that people refuse to talk about or see. In the Noir video below they look at some of the training and talk about some of the issues people should think about. Be it hand to hand self-defense, blunt weapons, sharp weapons or firearms, we have to be really honest to be prepared for the possible situations we can end up in.
Please note, before we get too far into the rabbit hole… I’m not talking about living, eating and breathing these issues 24 hrs a day. Do your training and get on with life. Love, share and have fun. Add the training in when it’s time, and get on with life afterwards. I’m an old fart with a younger wife, 2 kids, a grandchild and some great friends and students. There are other things in life when I’m not training. I’m sure you have more to see to than me.
Any hoo! Back to the subject. My wife and I reacted differently to a situation in which I had to fight a gang, when we were on the way home from a party. Her reaction to it, and mine, were completely different. I had no problems with the attackers being bloodied and hurt. The cold and far from pretty reality of it was a shock for her.
As I have written before, my childhood was not what people like to think about when they think of childhood. I was raised to be ready to defend my family against a real threat. My family could have been / was in danger, when some specific people got out of prison. It was expected that I could pick up a gun and defend my brother and sister, not to mention my mother. My wife’s upbringing was much more devoid of the harsh facts of life. That’s why we are soo good together. We are at balance.
People like to think a trained person could JUST DO THIS AND THAT! Well, those people don’t know anything about the truth. What about the people who have what I would call … the standard lack of training for real life. That’s the wrist lock training while the attackers is counting the number of lights hanging from the ceiling. In the video below they talk about just shooting an attacker in the leg. Lets talk about JUST SHOOTING AN ATTACKER IN THE LEG. In our fma world that would be doing a disarm of the knife that the person is attacking me /us while then doing some pretty hollywood series of techniques. That would make me / you the hero of the movie.
We can start with the shooting of the leg, then look at the act of doing a disarm in real life. When I was going to shooting weekly, I was a better shot than most Danish LEO. The Danish thought pattern is that guns should not be used. I agree that they are our last resort. This is where the BUT comes in. If you wear a gun on your hip and you are paid to protect and serve, shouldn’t you be damn good at using it, if you are forced to use the firearm? I say yes. There’s the elephant in the room. That’s not idealistic and proper. it would demand weekly training on the range. This training would also have aspects of what you see in the video. Getting your pulse rate up and performing under very controlled and unrealistic pressure. Real life is much more stressful. Now lets add a moving target. Now lets add a nut case that does not feel pain, is close enough that he/ they fall on you and continue attacking. And now the assailant is angry on top of that. These are just some of the factors we could talk about.
Physically we perform badly under real life pressure because our nervous systems switches over to fight or flight. We become physically uncoordinated because our nervous system can not do the puuuurty Hollywood finely tuned movement adjustment and maneuvers. Now lets add the fact that a knife strike horror in the minds of people when they are assaulted or threatened with them. Now lets add the fact that the knife welding attacker does not have our moral compass. He doesn’t care if you have 2 kids, a grandchild and a wonderful women at a home. He is drunk, on drugs or is a hardened criminal. Now lets add the fact that he does not feel pain when he is worked up. I am one of those people. I know others, they block out pain when focused on the mission at hand. We all have it when it is activated and we all have different activation levels / triggers.
Now you can JUST take the knife from that person above while he and his friends are doing their best to stab, punch, kick and yes possibly shoot you. Remember that your heart is beating so loudly that you can’t hear anything but your heart in your ears.
You might say that the situation seems hopeless. It might, if you are ignoring the HONKING PINK ELEPHANTS IN THE ROOM. Knowing they are there is half the battle. Learning to work with our thought patterns under stress is another and ….. doing the work is even more important. With that comes the ability to adjust under pressure and really recognise when you can just shoot the attacker in the leg. In our fma world, knowing when we have the time to fend off that drunk knife wielding dude ( or knife carrying gang member ) with the chair ( or bike 😉 ) that we see next to us.
If you have the stomach, look up KNIFE WOUNDS on google image. For the people who read this and say the author is a nut case. More power to you, I hope you live well and long. For the people who think like I do … get your butt in gear and train for real life. Then go play basketball with your son, visits your daughter and see your grandchild. And when the night comes, love that purty lady with all your heart.
The site for the Danish FMA and Self-defense grp is here. We are still working on it, so check it out from time to time. It will be a traditional go to site to see training information and so on for the club (forening). The LC Blog will continue to be my baby and my sounding board for thoughts about training and the mental aspects of training. In short a blog.
Ya’ll have a great day and stay proactive in life and training
Founder of Latosa Concepts Escrima
Member of the Danish FMA and Self-Defense Group